How To Change Your Habits For A Better Future

Whenever I think about how I used to go about making a change in my life I remember that it came from a moment of spontaneousness. I reacted because I noticed my skin was aging, my stomach was bloated, or I drank too much. I would change my habit for a moment and not long after fall right back into the patterns that got me to think a change was needed.

We all have a moment that shift us to realize something needs to change

I remember when I found out I was pregnant for the first time. Up until that point, I partied a lot and didn’t have a care in the world outside of when and where I would be able to party again. Then he was in my belly and things had to change. I worked really hard to change my habits. I cried a lot and craved a lot but I stuck it through. That was a moment of spontaneous habit breaking, but the habits that needed to be broken while important to more than just me, it mattered to my baby and all of those waiting for his arrival. That was a reason to get past my poor habits. That gave me the strength to not give into my triggers. It wasn’t easy but I wanted him to be healthy. My desire to make sure he was healthy was stronger than my need to drink, smoke cigarettes or do drugs.

And that is how a habit breaks.

You must want it so much, it must mean so much to you that you can’t imagine it any other way. You only see your outcome. You stay up at night working on it, you dream about it, you feel it in your bones. That is what it is like to break a habit. You know it’s the best thing for your dreams, your desires. By simply breaking a habit, you can manifest your desires. Honestly, I have seen this shift in my own life. The most recent habit I broke is drinking alcohol. I had been drinking since the age of 12. I was suspended from Catholic School in 7th grade for coming back from my lunch break drunk. How did they know I was drunk? I fell down the stairs and laughed all the way down. My BF at the time lived next door to the school and her father was an alcoholic so we had access to Vodka anytime we wanted. To give this habit up for more than my usual week or two has been interesting. I’ve had to socialize, deal with stress, boredom and change without the numbing alcohol would normally provide for me. But that habit was not in line with my future self, the woman I am working today to manifest tomorrow.

Here’s how to break a habit:

  1. Take a week to jot down your triggers. (ie) I noticed that when I was tired I craved sugar.
  2. After you jot it down start rewiring your brain to choose a new habit to alleviate the trigger (ie) have dark chocolate or energy bar or green tea available
  3. Do this new habit for no less than 21 days before you allow yourself to give in to what was your old habit.

It is important that you do the new habit for a period of time because you are trying to break the old habit with a new one and that takes time. You need to plan, you need to taste, you need to feel, you need to be confident that your needs are going to be satisfied with this new habit.

I have created a visual meditation practice you can listen to or watch on youtube..

What To Do When Too Much Time Passes

My husband once told me Time isn’t real

When he said this to me it was in the context of the production of my bar. This had me thinking and brings me now, here to this moment. The last time I connected with the Joulebody Community was the first week of May. Since then I have put together all the stuff I learned and wanted to share, but for one reason or another, I was distracted. I wasn’t sure what was going on but I didn’t do anything with the information I wanted to do. Actually, I did, I hoarded the information. I kept it in my notes, my journal, my computer but I didn’t share.

Have you heard Kanye’s new song “Yikes” or maybe you heard about Kate Spade’s taking her life due to her struggle with depression and anxiety? We are so hard on ourselves and sometimes it’s so overwhelming that we have no idea what we need to do to get clear, to be happy and to find a peaceful state of mind. I was always a believer we can best help others when we ourselves have compassion for the pain, the struggle. We have to truly know what it means to love and connect to help ourselves and others.

So I didn’t share what I had because I had to take care of what was in front of me. I needed to take the time to get clarity so that I can move forward from a clear healthy space, and the past few weeks wasn’t that. Some people write their content ahead of time so that moments like I had, when you have no idea what you need to do there is content ready. Me, I work from an authentic space. I feel the need to share from truth, that means I can’t hoard a post, a Vlog or a blog so that on the days I am not feeling I have something. I am ok now. My most recent post is a reminder that every moment is a different one. The smile I have on my face is real. The peace I feel in my mind is real. There is nothing fake about who I am or what I share. I work really hard to learn about what works for me so that I can work with others and support their need to get clear on what works for them.

I had a client recently who hesitated working with me because of she clearly said

I will start when I could do it 100%

There is no 100%, it’s all just showing up. Taking the time to self-actualize. Learning how to be compassionate and to be taken out of comfort. Those are the things you have to be ready to do, but not to be able to do it 100% because as diet plans show you, doing it 100% gives you temporary results that eventually fall short of giving you lifelong success. Now when you get into the core of your habits, your triggers and you become educated on the science that helps support your goal, then you see the results.

I did the prescription medication. I wanted a quick fix to the disturbances I was having in my mind, and I got that but meanwhile, I continued to do my research and I continued to educate myself with doctors and coaches and now I am here. Now I am.

Time isn’t real.

I would be wasting your time with the information you already have or can easily get if you wanted to. I don’t have a staff of writers and researchers. What I do have is my lifelong mission to bring on brain tapping gut healing programs for success.

Hope you know that you only deserve to have the best day ever.

Hormonal Imbalance Made Me Crazy

I have been working on an all-natural nutritional supplement bar for over 10-years. I dedicated my time and energy in learning about the most important ingredients to support our body and mind as we age. This bar is for women juggling careers, managing households and dealing with the hormonal shifts from either post-baby or perimenopause. It’s truly a dream I have had since I began my wellness journey.

I wanted to learn more about her, so I got a strategist involved. He recommended I interview my ideal client. Boy was he right on. In 2-days I was lucky enough to interview 10 women. He had given me a list of questions like,

What is your biggest struggle?

What time of the day is your hardest?

What is your go-to for energy?

As I went into it and got more and more comfortable, I began to ask questions like

Do you drink alcohol

How prepped are you when it comes to your meals

Do you believe that what you eat affects your mood

9 out of the 10 women were not prepared so ate whatever

10 out of 10 knew they felt better if they ate healthier and exercised

8 out of 10 connected their alcohol with a mood

10 out of 10 struggled with coffee, some wanted to stop but couldn’t others drank a lot less than usual because they were afraid of being addicted

What I found interesting is that every single one of them had heavy demands on their day that required lots of energy and yet no one said they ate sugar. I wasn’t sure if they were disconnected from using sugar as a way to get energy or they didn’t have sugary foods?

I learned how much they relied on juices and how the morning was the most difficult time of their day, however, they made no connection to the impact the night before had on their morning “feeling”. I was confused about how little they seemed to talk about the connection between the way they ate and the way they felt. But even more disturbing was that all of them said they know how good they feel when they eat right but they just don’t always have the time and for whatever reason don’t plan ahead so they end up eating whatever.

There either is a disconnection or a disbelief.

I imagine if I dove deeper into the conversation I can learn more.

You are what you eat has been around in forever and if we feed our bodies foods it can utilize for healing and manifesting, then we can easily receive the messages on what is toxic and what is healing.

Who’s to say what each of us really needs, right?  My great uncle is 84 years old. Never been to a doctor and lives on bread and coffee. Not even kidding. He was in the Korean war, came home an alcoholic and has suffered plenty of trauma throughout his life. Barely has teeth left, yet he is always smiling and joking. Gets up at 6am, plays dominos most of the day and walks about 5-10 miles every day. Anyone looking at him would say, he’s doing ok. Then there’s my best friend who was a mother of a little girl, yoga teacher, personal trainer and studying to be a nutritionist who died at the age of 44 of cancer. What’s that about?

I like to think I live my life as connected to the source and if for some reason I have information that helps me live in a higher vibrating state, then I am open and willing. Bring it on!

If you are connected to me in some way, either by friendship, family or client, then you want to learn more about how to take better care of yourself. I believe that you are brought to this page because you know that you don’t need to live in discomfort, pain or anxiety. You can be healthier. You can feel more in control. And most important you are able to manifest the life you desire. To do this you have to remove the blocks of chemicals and toxins. You have to let go of low vibrating habits and you must be willing to accept change. I did lots of research on every ingredient in my bar. That is what has taken this process so long. Remember it was 10-years ago. The studies we have on sugar even organic and raw proves that it causes inflammation. Just like the studies on curcumin and super-foods prove to be extremely beneficial to remove inflammation and inflammation is the cause of all diseases.

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Does Science Support This Ritual?

A really good friend recommended I see her healer. At this point, I was desperate and needed a solution, so I made an appointment. We spent a few hours together. She did psychic work on me, hands-on healing and she used some machine on me to stir up what she called “toxic energy” and get it moving. That’s when she ended by saying,

Take a bath using Epsom salt, apple cider vinegar and baking soda. This will help remove the negative energy you have sticking to you.

Ok? I was open to it and I did it. I believe that sometimes things work like the placebo effect. Because I truly believe that this ritual will get rid of toxic energy. But what does science say?

I am only going to get into the Epsom salt bath because that’s the one I’ve shared with my clients because I believed in its healing effects, detoxing.

Epsom Salt Baths For Detoxing

The benefits that come from heat from water—which is an opportunity to relax—and the benefits of heat on capillary dilation at skin level relieve pain. Also by adding Epsom salts, you may feel extra relaxed because the water feels silkier.

Science has shown the effects of magnesium in IV is amazing and has done such things as helping blood get healthier, relieve joint and muscle aches and help to relax the body and mind. These same results were not proven by those who just used Epsom salt in baths.

What I decided is that if something is going to make my bath experience more relaxing and it helps me to feel better, then why not. It definitely has shown more positive effects and absolutely no negative side effects so why not. And a new ritual that I starting practicing with my Epsom salt is scrubbing my body with it as I am stepping into the bath so the salt falls into my bath and my body is exfoliated.

Use Epsom salt baths to detoxify by oral ingestion: 10 to 30 grams for adults according to Healthline*. I have done this before and it definitely helped with bowel movements. And that is exactly what you want when you are detoxing. Get that sh*t out!!

How To Heal Inflammation

How To Heal Inflammation

Your gut holds inflammation. Inflammation makes you sick and tired.

Last year this time I was in the midst of getting 2 boys to graduate school, one senior and another elementary school. At the same time, I was closing on my last coaching program, preparing the stuff to launch my nutrition bar and packing up to move from one coast to another. Earlier this year I decided to take a year off from drinking. I basically had all the happenings to justify a nervous breakdown. Good news is, I didn’t have one. Bad news, my body paid for it.

What kept me insane?

Before I made any changes because I just couldn’t, I needed to do what was in front of me and not stress about the things I couldn’t control. I was barely able to keep food down and I had no appetite. I stopped exercising not because I couldn’t, I mean physically my heart was racing. I was waking up with a heartbeat of 107. Just so you can understand how bad that is, a usual resting heart rate is between 52-70. My RHR is usually 68. During this crazy time it was an average of 90-110.

What I did to heal my Gut

Here’s my quick go-to when I need energy that doesn’t keep me up at night but keeps me going during the day. And yes, these things help keep a healthy gut too.

  1. Greens: All sorts of greens. This includes: Matcha, chlorophyll, green tea, spirulina, and green veggies (which I am going, to be honest, I didn’t have much because it was awhile before I got access to a fridge and salads in restaurants just don’t interest me)
  2. Oat and things: I absolutely live for my morning concoction of oatmeal, chia seeds, flaxseeds, sunflower seeds, almonds, walnuts, goji berries, coconut oil and water. That’s it. i didn’t have a stove, but for this, no stove needed, just hot water.
  3. Bananas and walnuts: I needed quick energy and quick easy nerve supporting foods. That was bananas and walnuts. Magnesium, potassium and healthy fats.

There you go! Make it simple. Don’t over complicate your meals. Know what you want to achieve and eat for that goal.

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